What should you do if you are in a relationship with someone you dont actually love?

Be brave and just tell him that you do not want to date anymore, but you value his friendship and hope you can be friends. He will understand better if you just tell the truth. The trouble is not that things are so complicated, rather that you are reluctant to tell the truth and state your wishes. You have to learn to stand up for yourself in what is right for you. You will learn these skills eventually, or maybe you will end up marrying him because you are afraid of hurting him. That would be a disaster!!!!